{"id":2367,"date":"2025-08-01T11:01:18","date_gmt":"2025-08-01T16:01:18","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/jerrysjuicebar.com\/blog\/?p=2367"},"modified":"2025-08-03T19:19:32","modified_gmt":"2025-08-04T00:19:32","slug":"whaddya-think","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/jerrysjuicebar.com\/blog\/?p=2367","title":{"rendered":"Whaddya Think?"},"content":{"rendered":"<img decoding=\"async\" loading=\"lazy\" class=\"aligncenter wp-image-2371 size-full\" src=\"https:\/\/jerrysjuicebar.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/pexels-mentalhealthamerica-5543224.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"640\" height=\"427\" srcset=\"https:\/\/jerrysjuicebar.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/pexels-mentalhealthamerica-5543224.jpg 640w, https:\/\/jerrysjuicebar.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/08\/pexels-mentalhealthamerica-5543224-300x200.jpg 300w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 640px) 100vw, 640px\" \/>\n<p>Whatever it is\u2014your thinking, that is\u2014just know this: according to some, it might be the source of most (if not all) of your problems.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s the gist of a book I just picked up. I was at Barnes &amp; Noble to grab a copy of Orwell\u2019s 1984 (a story for another post!) when a small stack of books caught my eye at the checkout counter. Sitting on top was a tidy little hardback with an irresistible title: <a href=\"https:\/\/www.barnesandnoble.com\/w\/dont-believe-everything-you-think-joseph-nguyen\/1141623542?ean=9798893310153\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">\u201cDon\u2019t Believe Everything You Think.\u201d<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Cute. Creative. Clickbait for the analog world.<\/p>\n<p>It piqued my curiosity. Plus, the book had that satisfying heft in the hand and, thanks to some B&amp;N credits, it was basically free.<\/p>\n<p>Why the curiosity? I\u2019ve long wrestled with my own thinking. I think a lot. Too much, I think. Sometimes it serves me well. Other times, it takes me down mental rabbit holes with no cheese at the end.<\/p>\n<p>See? There I go again\u2014<a href=\"https:\/\/jerrysjuicebar.com\/blog\/?p=1296\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">thinking about my thinking<\/a>.<\/p>\n<p>So I figured: maybe this Nguyen fellow might provide some valuable insight.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Setting the Stage<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>But before diving into the book\u2019s ideas, let me offer three quick caveats\u2014wisdom gleaned from four decades in politics, marketing, communications, and the occasional stint as a <a href=\"https:\/\/jerrysjuicebar.com\/blog\/?p=2280\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">high school English teacher<\/a>. As for the latter, when analyzing a piece of non-fiction, I typically advise my students to do three things.<\/p>\n<p>First, look up the author. Mr. Nguyen has a well-polished online presence: website, blog, Instagram, YouTube. But here\u2019s the catch\u2014no bio. No credentials. No clear academic or professional background. It\u2019s all sizzle, very little steak.<\/p>\n<p>Second, when it comes to nonfiction, follow the sources. In this case, there aren\u2019t many. Vague personal anecdotes, sure. But no studies, no citations, no bibliography. It&#8217;s kind of like eating soup with a fork\u2014you&#8217;re not sure you&#8217;re getting the full nourishment.<\/p>\n<p>Third, consider the style. Nguyen writes in a self-help, motivational speaker kind of tone. Lots of \u201cYou can do it!\u201d and \u201cHere\u2019s the secret I discovered!\u201d Think Tony Robbins meets the latest \u201close weight now!\u201d commercial.<\/p>\n<p><strong>The Big Claim<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Nguyen\u2019s core message is clear: \u201cThe root cause of our suffering is our own thinking.\u201d (pg. 21)<\/p>\n<p>OK. I get it. As someone who struggles with overthinking, I can relate.<\/p>\n<p>Yes, anxiety is rampant. <a href=\"https:\/\/www.apa.org\/news\/press\/releases\/2024\/10\/top-us-stressors\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">A 2024 poll from the American Psychiatric Association<\/a> found that 43% of U.S. adults feel more anxious than last year. That\u2019s up from 37% in 2023 and 32% in 2022.<\/p>\n<p>Why the uptick? Some blame the economy. Others point to climate change. Or political polarization. Or gun violence. Jonathan Haidt, in <a href=\"https:\/\/www.anxiousgeneration.com\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">The Anxious Generation<\/a>, puts the blame squarely on technology.<\/p>\n<p>But Nguyen? He says it\u2019s just our thinking. There&#8217;s a good case to be made. Most of us experience over-thinking &#8211; aka &#8220;rumination&#8221; &#8211; at some point in our life. According to one <a href=\"https:\/\/www.talkiatry.com\/blog\/why-do-i-overthink-everything\">study<\/a> &#8220;nearly 73% of 25 to 35-year-olds and 52% of 45 to 55-year-olds experienced overthinking in their day-to-day lives.&#8221; According to this and other studies, this &#8220;rumination&#8221; tends to decrease with age. I must be the exception to the rule.<\/p>\n<p>So Nguyen is on to something. But it\u2019s the diagnosis\u2014and more importantly, the prescription\u2014that gets my brow to furrow.<\/p>\n<p>First, Nguyen draws a sharp line between \u201cthoughts\u201d and \u201cthinking.\u201d Thoughts, he says, are neutral. Thinking is what gets us in trouble. Interesting\u2026 but also a little like separating \u201cfire\u201d from \u201cburning.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Further, he claims that thoughts come from \u201cthe universe or our higher selves,\u201d while thinking comes from \u201cour egos\u201d (pg. 78) Really?<\/p>\n<p>Consider these \u201cthoughts\u201d:<\/p>\n<p>&#8211; White people are the superior race.<br \/>\n&#8211; People I disagree with are assholes.<br \/>\n&#8211; Let\u2019s get drunk.<br \/>\n&#8211; Money is the most important thing in life.<\/p>\n<p>Is that our higher self? I don&#8217;t think so (there I go again!) In his book, Nguyen&#8217;s thinking (dog gone it! I did it again!) is akin to Rousseau\u2014humans are born pure and corrupted by the world. But Hobbes might have the stronger case: that in our natural state, humans are solitary, poor, nasty, brutish, and short.<\/p>\n<p>Me? I think the truth is probably somewhere in between.<\/p>\n<p>Second, Nguyen suggests that thinking prompts us to think in terms of &#8220;black and white&#8221; &#8211; &#8220;good and bad.&#8221; He suggests that there&#8217;s no such thing as \u201cgood\u201d or \u201cbad.\u201d He quotes Shakespeare\u2019s Hamlet that: \u201cThere is nothing either good or bad, but thinking makes it so.\u201d Yes, many philosophers (and therapists) urge us to reserve judgment, especially in the moment. What seems \u201cbad\u201d today\u2014a lost job, a breakup\u2014may turn out to be the beginning of something better. But denying good and bad altogether? That\u2019s not just philosophical fastidiousness\u2014it\u2019s potentially dangerous. It risks numbing us to injustice and inaction. As Dr. King reminded us, we must respond to \u201cthe fierce urgency of now.\u201d<\/p>\n<p>Third, Nguyen claims it\u2019s not what we think\u2014it\u2019s the mere act of thinking that causes suffering.<\/p>\n<p>(Wait\u2026 is Nguyen asking us to think about that?)<\/p>\n<p>I don\u2019t know about you, but some of my biggest regrets came from not thinking. And some of the world&#8217;s greatest advances \u2014personally and societally\u2014have come from people daring to think in new and challenging ways.<\/p>\n<p>Sure, overthinking can lead to what psychologists call \u201cANTs\u201d\u2014automatic negative thoughts. It can be paralyzing. But the antidote to bad thinking isn&#8217;t no thinking. It&#8217;s better thinking.<\/p>\n<p><strong>So\u2026 Think Again?<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>Philosophers from Aristotle to William James to Viktor Frankl have praised the power of thoughtful reflection. And <a href=\"https:\/\/stjosephshealth.org\/healthy-you\/discover-the-unexpected-link-between-this-simple-habit-and-your-health\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">science agrees<\/a>\u2014positive thinking improves mental and physical health.<\/p>\n<p>Which brings to mind the words of St. Paul:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>\u201cFinally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest,<br \/>\nwhatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are<br \/>\nlovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be<br \/>\nany praise, think on these things.\u201d (Philippians 4:8)<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Thinking isn\u2019t the enemy. It\u2019s a tool. And like any tool, it can be misused\u2014or wielded with wisdom.<\/p>\n<p>So yeah. Don\u2019t believe everything you think.<\/p>\n<p>But don\u2019t stop thinking either.<\/p>\n<p>Think about that.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Whatever it is\u2014your thinking, that is\u2014just know this: according to some, it might be the source of most (if not all) of your problems. That\u2019s the gist of a book I just picked up. 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